And the walls come tumbling down…… Progress!

Do you know what’s beautiful about growth and progress? It comes in layers. When we are ready, the lessons come. Not before. And many times, when we least expect it, at least for me. Allow me to explain.

The Barriers to Progress

I am a business woman. I have both a MLM business, and another online insurance business. Both require me to speak to people. I mean, that’s the whole point of networking right? Talking to people.

Many times I’d sit in front of my computer, starting blankly at the screen, not knowing where to begin. I decided to bring the question into a sit.

Why can’t I talk to people? Why is it I don’t know how to have a conversation with friends? Keep in mind, I am a Red/ yellow. If you don’t know what that means, I am basically the most outgoing individual you could possibly meet.

To learn more about the Color Code, click here.

And I CAN be. I’ve worked in retail, sales, and waitressed. All outgoing, talkative career options.

But to do it for myself, my friends, or especially my family, I freeze.

Why?!

Understanding the Barriers to Progress

After bringing the question into a couple sits, and not seeming to get an answer that’s hitting true with me, I rephrase the question but add, Show me clearly and directly, what is blocking my progress. What do I need to get rid of? Throw in a few “ do it now do it now do it nows” and here we go.

Typical Red personality behavior lol. It’s happened before when I get frustrated, and it always works, but if you use it, be prepared for lighting speed, knocking the walls down, emotional roller coaster, cement breaking.

Now this is where it gets interesting. And out of respect for my family, I am not disclosing the details of this Tiff. That said, an argument happened. I was bawling over things that were said, and as much as they hurt, a LOT was true. Now the question was, “Why am I like this?”

It came like a bolt of lightning. My childhood impressions of divorce and trauma, that led me to feel like no one wanted to speak to me. I say impressions, because, as an adult, I can say that the situation wasn’t quite the way I remember it, or they didn’t mean it, blah blah blah.

We learn in the course that Subby (the subconscious) is a six year old child. He/ She takes everything literally. Guess how old I was when all this happened? Six.

Here is another blog post about overcoming trauma.

Healing and Growth

Back to the healing and growth part. Pain is typically the touchstone on which we grow the most. That little journey I took, wasn’t fun. It was painful as @#! But knowing where the cement walls are, gives me the tools to blast them down.

By breaking down those cement chunks, I can progress on healing my relationships, build stronger bonds, and oh yea, not freeze every time I sit in front of the computer.

Learn how you can make progress in your own life HERE.