So what is this comfort zone and how do you control it? One of the things that I’ve discovered going through the Master Key Experience course multiple times is that weeks 19 through 22 have some extremely powerful and interesting insights. It’s during these weeks that for many members the real push regarding self-directed thinking begins. A significant part of that push involves something known as one’s comfort zone and who is ultimately controlling it.
It’s no secret that every day choices are faced, but when taking the time to slow down and observe these choices an interesting interconnection is seen. Every choice that each of us faces involves comfort zone. Simply put as we decide on these choices, are we going to stay with what is comfortable or willingly step out into the unknown? What I always find interesting with these weeks is how what many people would consider negative components can be used to our advantage in order to take that leap of faith into the unknown. And in the process actually expand that comfort zone.
One of the components that society uses to discourage leaving the comfort zone is fear. Looking back at first learning to swim or to ride a bike what was typically the biggest obstacle? Fear. There was fear of the water and not being able to stay afloat. There was fear of losing balance and falling. Fears that as children we overcome because we don’t let it overtake us. Overcome by making a choice to keep at it, to persist until we succeed.
Yet as we move into adulthood, many times we allow the cement of fear to build up. Maybe we don’t ask someone to the big dance out of fear of rejection. Or we don’t apply for a job out of fear of not being qualified. Or we don’t pursue a career change or what our heart desires because that what-if component of fear sets in. All negative aspects of fear.
On the flip side using fear as a tool might involve applying for that job knowing that one’s talents and intangibles are good enough. Choosing to pursue the lifelong dream knowing that trying is better than having regret. Making phone calls to garner support for an endeavor or to grow a client-based business, realizing that a “no” today is the stepping stone to that “yes” tomorrow.
Another comfort zone component that society uses as a negative that can actually be utilized as a tool is anger. How often do you get angry at others or perhaps yourself for something that happens, for how a situation turns out?
Personally I’ve found that if it’s not every day, it is still multiple times a week. And being a “white” on the Color Code I find that many times I’ve held it in until I reached the so-called boiling point. And then once that anger is expressed, how often does it result in beating up oneself afterwards for how we reacted to the situation. Just more and more time spent piling on, some of it self-inflicted and some of it the result of how we’ve been trained over the years.
Anger is one of those powerful negative energies, so imagine if it was channeled positively. What if each time we got angry about something that anger was channeled towards completing an action that advances an aspect of an identified definite major purpose in one’s life. Consider the impact if one took the time to think before reacting and applied one of the Seven Laws of the Mind. Perhaps the Law of Substiution, Law of Dual Thought or (gasp!) Law of Forgiveness?
Comfort Zone Control
When it comes to the comfort zone, it ultimately comes down to deciding who should be in charge of controlling it. And when making this decision it’s important to keep in mind the words of B.F. Skinner about how “Society attacks early, when the individual is helpless.
So am I controlling the comfort zone by doing things like embracing change, choosing to pursue my bliss, taking the actions necessary to live the life I want? Or am I letting the comfort zone, control me by my choosing to only do what’s comfortable, staying in the river of dreams, thinking and acting only how society says to?
For me the answer is the former. I may not fully be there yet, however I’m much closer to having that full control after being on this journey known as the Master Key Experience since 2019.
One of the best parts of focusing on using negative components of the comfort zone in ways that are advantageous? Creating what Charles Haanel calls the vital energy necessary to heal disease by:
“eliminating thoughts of fear, worry, care, anxiety, jealousy, hatred and every other destructive thought, which tend to tear down and destroy the nerves and glands which control the excretioin and elimination of poisonous and waste matter.”The Master Key System, Part 22, intro
This spectacular journey comes around once a year in the fall. Are you ready to take the plunge and find out more about this courageous adventure?
What a great concept, Brad! Controlling your comfort zone… who would have guessed that could be done, or that it was so important! Thanks for sharing!
Thank you Brad for sharing these valuable tips to handle life…. and your comfort zone!
“When it comes to the comfort zone, it ultimately comes down to deciding who should be in charge of controlling it.” – that is a powerful statement, Brad. It turns into quite a powerful question we need to ask ourselves – maybe a great question for another index card: “Who is in charge of my comfort zone?”
Great blog Brad. An inspired view of our ‘comfort zone’ and how to transform within it.
Great blog! Thanks for sharing your insights on the comfort zone.
I still have some work to do to fully control the impulses of my control zone in some situations, but when it comes to the River of Dreams and the quirky concepts that society tries to promote, I am definitely in control 🙂 Thank you Brad for this well written and inspiring post!
Brad, you have a delightful gift of making the heavy light. I grinned when I saw your thoughts about applying the 7 Laws when expanding our comfort zone and you wrote “or (gasp!) Law of Forgiveness?” I’m with you on that one–next to fear and anger I’ve found that a need to forgive ranks right up there for many MANY of us…including forgiving ourselves. Thanks for these insights about the COMFORT ZONE.