Do you have a clear picture of what you want in life? What your dreams are and what you want your future to be? Or are you aimlessly ambling toward your future with no direction or map in site?
How many times have you heard, “Where do you see yourself in five years? or in ten years?” Did you ever answer those questions? or did you just nod and float on by?
I can remember hearing this so many times…yet I am not sure that I can really ever remember trying to answer it or writing anything down. I don’t ever recall writing out my future or what I wanted to do or be or where for that matter, until I started working with Bob Proctor and wrote my first why statement.
As a child, I wanted to be a Marine Biologist, as I loved dolphins and the ocean. Then I realized that you need to know and like science for that ha!ha! Science was not my strong suit, and really I just wanted to spend the day on the ocean playing with animals…I didn’t want to work in a lab or write reports. I just wanted the fun stuff, not the actual work involved with it.
Now I look back, just in my forties, and I think, I could have done this if I had the DRIVE and push to do so, but at that time, I wasn’t driven enough. I didn’t see the future me doing any of this; I didn’t see the future me doing anything.
Focus On Your Clear Picture
I guess that is not entirely true…I had friends who were missionaries in Kenya for six years when I a child, and I always saw myself being a missionary in Kenya as well. I held that thought in my mind FOREVER. I nurtured it, and I focused on it, and I put everything into that thought. Man I put more energy into those thoughts than I did ALL of college.
Guess where I wound up?
You bet I did. I spent eleven months in Kenya after my second year in college at a boarding academy for our missionary children in the surrounding countries.
I never accepted the idea that I would not be going there. It never crossed my mind that there would have to be a position there for me to go. I couldn’t just decide I wanted to go here, and here I would go. That isn’t the way the student mission program worked.
There were positions all over the world, and the positions that fit you, you could apply for them.
I remember looking on the website for the available places and positions; now I had no interest in teaching English as a second language…I barely passed English. I could speak, write, and be relatively well spoken, but no interest in being a teacher.
As I scrolled through the positions I came across Assistance Girls Dean at our Boarding School. Now of course, just because I saw this, also did not mean I would get selected for it. But I was already going. I knew I was, and I was going to go spend a year where Kroy and Susan did all their work, and where I had been supporting my church through donations for years.
Do you think it worked out?
OF COURSE IT DID!!!
Even the money I needed to raise for my open ended ticket, everything came together as we know it will with the Law of Attraction, and WHY?
Because I continued to carry that clear picture in my head of what I wanted. I focused on it just like the bullseye on a dart board.
“But your ideal must be sharp, clear-cut, definite; to have one ideal today, another tomorrow, and a third next week, means to scatter your forces and accomplish nothing; your result will be a meaningless and chaotic combination of wasted material.”Charles Haanel, The Master Key System, 12:6.
This really got me thinking, How many times have I changed my thought of what I want and where I want to go? Or even to have NO thought of what or where.
I have spent lots of my life, just going to work everyday because I have to pay my bills, and that is what everyone has to do, so love it or hate it, it doesn’t matter, suck it up princess.
Okay, lets think about that again for a minute. I mean, yes it is true, I have to pay my bills, but do I really have to be miserable doing it just because I have to?
I spent the last ten years of my life doing accounts receivable for an oil and gas company. I was good at my job, it was relatively easy for me…but I didn’t love it, it gave me no purpose or passion.
I loathed getting up everyday and going in. I was probably late half the days I worked there.
It was an emotionally and mentally abusive place, and I would indeed take my work home with me, physically and mentally some days. I even spent my time there mentally all over the place. I’d say to myself….I’m hear for the long haul, I’m quitting, I’m going to get that position when so and so retires, I’m never going to last here long enough to get…..
My focus was always on the constant storm of emotions and actions.
And GUESS WHAT HAPPENED? I lost my job. My job I disliked. My job I needed as I was the main breadwinner in the family. My job that made me miserable. My job that made me angry. My job that trapped and sucked my soul dry.
I would never have quit, because I had mouths to feed and provide for… But what was I teaching my kids? What example was I leaving them? That we get up and go to do something that we dislike and sucks our soul dry because we have no choice?
Now I sound like my father-in-law. Get a good job and stay there, and then get another job to help support the rest of it. I allowed myself to be held captive by fear and worry.
Who would pay the bills? What if I couldn’t get a job that paid this much? I already can’t pay my bills. Have you caught all of the negativity in this? What I was focusing on? Because for the life of me I did not see it, and yet I was wallowing and drowning in it.
“Of course, worry, fear, and all negative thoughts produce a crop after their own kind; those who harbour thoughts of this kind must INEVITABLY reap what they have sown.”Charles Haanel, The Master Key System, 12:11.
Haanel shows us that what we focus on grows, just as the Law of Growth states. If we live our life shrouded in the garments of worry, fear, and lack, we can expect nothing else to show up in our life than that which we spend all of time focusing on.
We say that we don’t want these things, such as debt, but all we keep saying is not these things. Instead of saying I’m paying off debt, paying of debt, paying off debt…I need to shift my focus to what I DOOOOOO WANT.
The subconscious mind does not have reasoning abilities, it does not hear “don’t want” or “paying off”; all it hears is debt, debt, debt. And as you are “paying off this debt,” magically as if it was “not listening to you at all”……then the engine in the car blows up, the hot water tank goes, the roof needs replaced as it is leaking…and you wonder WHY can’t I catch a break?? I’m working SO HARD!!
It is true, you are working incredibly hard…except that you are bringing into your life the exact things that you indeed did not want. The same force that is always bringing us our future is working continuously with the material you are feeding it.
Focus on the Clear Picture You Want
Let us then shift our focus to the things we do want. I am financially free!! I am healthy and full of energy!! I am creating my art and my life… These are just a few examples. If I am financially free, can I have debt around me? No, so by focusing on being financially free, I have eliminated the debt that has plagued me and my soul for so long.
By being Healthy, I cannot be overweight as that is not my health conscious body? Therefore I have reached my health goals according to focusing on the end.
Too many times we say “I’m losing weight”. Do we ever really want to lose anything?? Keys? Phone? Wallet? No! Losing something is a ‘bad’ thing, so why would we want to ‘lose’ that weight?
Repeating the thought “I am maintaining my healthy weight goal of…. ” serves us much better. And because my focus has changed, so does my reality and my future.
I now hold a VERY clear picture in my mind of what I intend to become and I know what that person looks like, feels like, and is doing.
I can see my future me in my mind as a friend and as ME. I hold and focus on that clear picture knowing that this will bring me exactly what I am focusing on….what I want, my ideal Life of my choosing.
If you are curious about how I learned to really focus my thoughts on just what I want, click here to find out more about the Master Key Experience course that starts in late September.
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Thank you Candy for a very thoughtful blog, is so true once we get to know what we really want everything get easier.
The “Law of Growth,” Candy. How valuable is that?!!! 🙂
Insightful as always Candy. Thanks for sharing your experiences in snippets with us. Love your style.