Getting “divorced”. At first glance, you’re probably thinking I’m about to talk about an ex-spouse. No. I’m talking about how allowing toxic thoughts into your mind greatly influences your subconscious.
A case in point. I’m getting married (for the 2nd time) in October. My first wife died of cancer 7 years ago. I wound up meeting a fantastic lady from the state of Washington in 2017. I (finally) put an engagement ring on her finger last Christmas.
What Divorced Means for Me
Wonderful! Awesome! So where’s the toxicity? In my family. We sent out invitations to my whole family; a total of about 15 people. Both sets of parents are deceased, so it’s siblings, children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren.
Guess how many people from my side are attending? ZERO. NADA. ZILCH. Their attitudes run the gamut from “I simply don’t care” to “I want a relationship with you as long as I don’t have to put forth any effort.” Sure, the excuses given include “We don’t have a pet sitter”; “Airline tickets are expensive right now”; and “Vegas is really hot”. The “excuse” doesn’t matter; only the reality.
So, I had a decision to make. Do I maintain relationships with people who want me making all the effort? No. So, I have “divorced” them. Up to an including “un-friending” all of them on social media.
Now, please don’t feel sorry for me, because this had to happen. It had to happen so that I stopped living a lie and started living the truth. A whole bunch of “cement” was locked in place by continuing even the most superficial relationship with these folks. That cement came off and I’m better for it.
After all, “today I begin a new life.” I remember reading that someplace…
“Today I begin a new life… Today my old skin has become as dust. I will walk tall among men and they will know me not, for today I am a new man, with a new life.”
Og Mandino, The Greatest Salesman in the World
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And through all this, you found some real LOVE, Scott. Congratulations! And thank you for sharing such a personal and deep story. Hooray for loosing cement!!
Thank you, Scott, for sharing very personal story with honesty and transparency about how you have handled this tough situation. Yes, it is so powerful to be able to step out of the unhealthy perspective to move forward and onward with the healthier and brighter perspective which we have learned through this amazing MKE journey!