Aloha!

One day you wake up and decide that you are tired of feeling tired and that you have had enough of all that is negative and toxic.

You decide that you want to change yourself and your life but don’t know where exactly to start.

There are many things you can do to begin rebuilding your life and make it ridiculously amazing!

Today I want to share with you 12 things that are meant to help you do just that.

1. Make a commitment to yourself.

I (name),

Make the following commitments to myself,

To spend so much time improving myself and my life that I have no time for worry, judgement, criticism, whining and complaining;

Starting now, I make a commitment to let go of what’s behind me and appreciate what’s in front of me;

To let go of all the pointless drama, toxic relationships, thoughts and behaviors that are present in my life and to constantly shift my focus from the bad on to the good;

To make room in my heart for love,

happiness, and peace and to create my life from a place of infinite choices and possibilities – the present moment, and no longer from a place of limitations – the past.

I commit to staying true to myself at all times and to never betray myself just so I can please other people.

I commit myself to eliminate toxic thoughts and behaviors.

Starting now and starting today, I rebuild my life and make it ridiculously amazing.

I Always Keep My Promises,
(name)

Once you truly commit to rebuilding your life and making it ridiculously amazing, nothing and no one can stand in your way.

Remember, you are Limitless!

2. Let go of past hurts and resentments.

Fill your heart with love. Allow it to take away all the resentment you kept in your heart for all this time and allow yourself to fill in that empty space with love, inner peace and compassion.

If others mistreated you in the past, it doesn’t mean you have to continue their work.

Release and let go of all negativity in your life. Start small, and Trust that as you work to let go of all the cement that is weighing you down, you feel lighter and you gain a lot more clarity over your life. You feel happier and more at peace with yourself and the world around you.

3. Embrace all that you face with grace.

Shift your focus from the bad on to the good, from the pain on to the gain, from resentment on to the forgiveness, gratitude and appreciation.

Appreciate everything life sends your way, whether good or bad and know that

“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”

~ Melody Beattie

4. Visualize your achievements and create your new reality.

Ask yourself the same question I asked myself last year when I decided to let go of my attachment to the past and rebuild my whole life:

If there were no limits to what I can do, BE, and have, what would my life look like? What do I want?

Let your imagination run wild. Dare to dream big. Don’t settle for anything less than what YOU are worth.

The richer your imagination, the more beautiful your life is.

The power of imagination is incredible!

Often we see athletes achieving unbelievable results and wonder how

they did it. One of the tools they use is visualization, or mental imagery.

They make the choice to create their new realities and they visualize their achievements.

See in your mind the life you love to live, and the person you love to BE!

Live your life from the end and act as if all of the things you need and desire are already present in your life.

Feel the feelings that come from having all those wonderful things happen to you and allow those feelings to be with you at all times.

5. Dreams won’t work unless you do.

Act upon your heart’s desire. Do the things you need to do in order to get where you want to get.

Read the books you need to read, contact the people you need to contact, build the skills you need to build.

Find a mentor. Dare to ask questions. Do whatever it takes to move yourself closer to making your dreams come true.

Trust that with every step you take, your life situation improves and you become happier than you already are.

6. Take one step at a time.

Because of the decades of past conditioning and intense training you have in holding on to toxic thoughts and behaviors, this task won’t be easy and it won’t happen overnight. Chances are that you won’t see major improvements in your life immediately, and that’s okay.

Be patient and gentle with yourself while working on rebuilding your life and remember to enjoy the Journey.

“Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it.”

~ Greg Anderson

Take one step at a time and keep in mind that a journey of 1000 miles begins with a single step.

7. Develop a deep trust in life.

You have to have faith. You have to have trust… Trust in yourself, trust in the people you interact with, and trust in life.

Put your fears aside. Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Develop a deep trust in the wisdom of life.

“Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing is impossible for you.”

~ Matthew 17:20

8. Give yourself permission to make mistakes.

Give yourself permission to stumble and make mistakes.

Trust me when I tell you that in every “mistake” there is a lesson to learn, a lesson that is very beneficial to you as you continue to walk on your life’s chosen path.

“There are no mistakes. The events we bring upon ourselves, no matter how unpleasant, are necessary in order to learn what we need to learn; whatever steps we take, they’re necessary to reach the places we’ve chosen to go.”

~ Richard Bach

9. Be good to yourself.

Love yourself and be good to yourself. When you do, the world around you mirrors your behavior.

Take good care of your mind, body, heart and soul. Exercise, drink plenty of water, eat healthy and delicious food.

Nurture good thoughts.​

Act in compassionate and loving ways, towards yourself and the world around you.

Spend time alone, spending at least 15 minutes per day in silence, which helps you feel refreshed, rejuvenated and renewed.

Go outside. Spend some time in nature. Look at the plants, the sky, the stars, the moon and the trees.

Celebrate the miracle of life.

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”

~ Albert Einstein

10. Stop living your life to meet other people’s expectations.

Way too many people live a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them. They live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, enemies, teachers, government​ and the media think is best for them.

They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling.

They are so busy pleasing everybody, living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives.

They forget what makes them happy, what they want, and what they need, and eventually they forget about themselves.

Never get your sense of worth from outside yourself. Your worth comes from within!

Don’t ever let other people tell you how much you’re worth, this is something only you can decide for yourself.

It’s called self worth, not others’ worth.

You have one life, this one right now! You must live it, OWN it, and never let other people’s opinions distract you from your chosen path.

11. Discipline your mind to stay present in the NOW.

Learn to be present and engaged in the present moment. Be happy with what you have, what you know, and who you are right now.

Don’t allow your mind to trick you into thinking that you won’t be happy until you get to where you want to get.

Appreciate what is in front of you.

When you are present and engaged in the NOW, you live a very happy and content life, and no matter how many challenges life sends your way, you become a better person.

“As soon as you honor the present moment, all unhappiness and struggle dissolve, and life begins to flow with joy and ease. When you act out the present-moment awareness, whatever you do becomes imbued with a sense of quality, care, and love – even the most simple action.”

~ Eckhart Tolle

12. Surround yourself with loving and supportive people.

Surround yourself with positive, cheerful, supportive and loving people. People who lift you up when you are feeling down.

People who turn on the light for you when you are in the dark. People who see you for what you truly are and who you truly become.

Take the advice of Mark Twain and

“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”

— Mark Twain

You need positive and loving friends who support you in your new way of life…

Commit yourself to making the best of everything life sends your way.

Like a river, or the ocean waves, be soft and flexible. Go WITH the flow of life, instead of against it.

Enjoy the ride and no matter what happens to you and no matter how many challenges and difficult people life might send your way, know that

they are all there to help you grow and evolve into the beautiful being you so much want and deserve to be.

You only have one life to live. Make it a memorable one!

Eliminate all of the toxicity present in your life but never on yourself and your dreams, ok?

Food for thought….

How do you envision your ideal self? What about your ideal life?

What steps could you take this week to move yourself closer to building your ideal self and living your ideal life?

I really want to know what are your thoughts on this. Please share your insights by commenting below.

Peace & Abundance,

Brenda