It is so easy to get caught up in doing so much in our lives that we miss out on being who we are. If each one of us were to focus on “being the best version” of ourselves, this world would be a more beautiful place filled with shining lights everywhere.
Have you wondered why we are so busy trying to do so much? Well, I have lived my life for so long being busy doing so much. It wasn’t until in recent years that I’ve realized that there is no end to doing things. What good is it if we end up doing so much and lose ourselves in the midst of it? That’s exactly what happened to me several years ago.
Discovering how “To Be”
I have a very special friend who is like a sister to me (I grew up with 3 brothers and no sisters). She is someone I can share anything and also she loves me for who I am. One day while we were sharing our lives in her dining room, she asked me what God is saying to me.
I couldn’t respond to her question for a long time and finally I said “I don’t see myself.” Right after I said these few words, I suddenly felt very sad. This led me to search deeper and dig more into myself.
It was during this time that I was already in my Master Key Experience (MKE) journey. What a revelation that I felt like I lost myself in the midst of doing so much for others. I lived my life for so long doing things for the sake of doing out of obligation and duty. Even though I was doing a lot of good things, there was no deep peace and joy within me. No wonder this is how I felt.
We were not meant to live our lives like others or for others, but we live our lives being true to who we are meant to be.
As individuals, we have very unique gifts and talents and our individual journey that was set out for us.
Yes, we need to be there for others, but if we are doing things for others just out of obligation and duty, what good is that?
We might feel good for a while and others may think highly of us.
However, if we feel weary and tired from doing so much and eventually forget who we are, that would be very sad.
Consider asking yourself, what are my unique gifts?
What are my unique talents that I could naturally share with the world around me?
In the MKE course, the main text that we study is The Master Key System by Charles Haanel and he states:
We must “be” before we can “do,” and we can “do” only to the extent which we “are.”
Charles Haanel, The Master Key System, Part 1:4
What do you think about his statement? You can “do” only to the extent of which you “are”. You must “be” before we can “do”. I am so glad that I now focus more on “being” than “doing” and it is so freeing to live this way.
If you are uncertain about what these statements mean or you want to “Be” the “best version of yourself” and your “Doing” flows out of who you “are”, consider signing up for the Master Key Experience course when we offer it next year if you missed the chance this year in September.
In the meantime, click here to receive the FREE TOOL called the 7 Day Mental Diet that you can use right away to start becoming aware of your thoughts and experience more “being” versus doing.
You won’t regret it. Life is short! Why not live our lives to the full instead of having regrets in the end?
Magnificent blog Esther! I recently participated in my first “group Mindfulness nature walk” in my area. We did 15 minutes of Silence near a stream, where several of us actually sat on the rocks within the stream.
What a great reminder for us “to be” and allow ourselves to connect even deeper with our true nature rather than getting swept up in all the activity of “doing”. Thanks for sharing your experience with us and how important it is to prioritize our self care.
Jen, that’s great you had a chance to take time out to be silent and connect with the nature and focus on “being”.
Thank you for your encouraging words as usual! You are such a wonderful encourager and friend!
Thank you, Ester, for the beautiful blog and reminder to BE first.